Nigerian Mums NY/NJ is a private, women-only group for Nigerian mums in New Jersey and New York. By joining, you agree to these rules.
A Mum Lead will step in if a rule is broken. If you are not sure about something, ask a Mum Lead before you post.
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A private space for Nigerian mums in New York and New Jersey to share advice, exchange recommendations, support one another, build friendships, network, and organise events just for us.
To keep our community useful, welcoming, and safe for everyone:
Women only. This group is for women only. No men are allowed in the group. Some of our events may be open to men as well; the Mum Leads will announce which ones.
Verified before you join. A Mum Lead calls every mum and confirms she is a woman before she is added to the group. Nobody is added without speaking to a Mum Lead first.
Be kind and respectful. We're all raising children differently. Share what worked for you, but don't shame or pressure anyone about their choices.
What's shared here stays here. Don't screenshot or forward members' messages or personal stories outside the group without permission.
Protect the children. No photos of other people's children without the parent's permission. Don't share children's full names, schools, or addresses.
Not medical, legal, or immigration advice. Sharing your experience is welcome. For professional advice, please consult a professional. Never ask about or share anyone's immigration status.
Organic conversation only. Write in your own words. No forwarded or copied-and-pasted messages, chain messages, or "share to 10 groups" posts.
No links or videos. Please don't post links or video links of any kind. Tell us in your own words instead. Only the Mum Leads may share event details or links when needed.
No devotionals. We love and respect everyone's faith, but this group isn't for devotionals, prayers, sermons, or religious broadcasts. Please share those in your church or faith groups.
No selling or promoting. No ads, business posts, discount codes, or "DM me to order." This includes your own business. If you'd like to be featured or sponsor an event, message a Mum Lead.
Recommendations: be honest and specific. When someone asks for a recommendation, tell us what you used, when, and how it went. Say so if you have a connection to the business. Please share the name in your own words, not as an ad.
Keep it relevant. Parenting, family life, local advice, and community support. No politics, tribal or ethnic arguments, or unverified "urgent" alerts.
No scams, fundraising, or MLM pitches. If you need support in an emergency, speak to a Mum Lead first.
Disagreements go private. Message a Mum Lead instead of arguing in the group.
If rules are broken: a private reminder, then a private warning, then removal. Serious violations (harassment, scams, children's photos, hate speech) mean immediate removal.
Our events: We host one meetup a month for mums and kids, plus our December Party for parents and kids. The group itself is women only, but some events may be open to men as well. The Mum Leads will say which. Details are posted by the Mum Leads only. Watch for announcements, and please don't post event invitations from outside the group.